Really real post about the flying motorcycle with insight into my brain and my world if you want it.
Five years ago today I wanted a cigarette and was having a hard time leaving the porch.
It was 5 days after Parker and I got out of the homeless shelter. My anxiety was in full swing. I finally had a safe space again and was having a hard time leaving it.
Kidlet had come to stay with us. Our first time having him for more than a few hours in 6 months. It was like his 3rd day with us.
Parker finally agreed to go to the corner store to get me smokes after I drove her nuts. She didn’t want to go but you know… telling me no typically ended in melt downs and being out of smokes didn’t make it any better. Kidlet went with her.
They were walking down the sidewalk. How much more freak can an accident be?
Motorcycle gets hit by car, goes airborne, hits Parker in the head, lands on Kidlet. Kidlet caught a flying motorcycle cause he’s badass like that.
I still hear his screams in the back of the ambulance on the way to the hospital. I still remember the driver telling me “as bad as the screams are, it’s worse when they are silent.” And how much that both comforted me and chilled me to the bone.
Kidlet got through that like a champ and started showing his nature of resilience and grit and smiles in the face of bullshit challenges that are totally unfair.
Parker had a “moderate” concussion that I don’t think any of the doctors took seriously enough. It’s one of many things that I kept fighting and advocating and “what the fuck-ing” in the midst of all of her head problems but…. yet another “overweight emotional woman” situation and I won’t get on that soap box right now.
All cause I wanted a cigarette.
And yeah yeah . . . Not my fault, could have happened to anyone. But if I would have gotten my own damn shit, or not have smoked in the first place.
And you wonder why sometimes it’s so so hard for me to ask for help or accept help….
Or tell people no. Or not offer help to others when they are having a hard time asking or blah blah blah.
So so many layers and I know why I do a lot of what I do. And knowing so many of the whys make it harder to untangle.