I made it.
Two years without her and I’ve made it.
Not only that but I’ve thrived and done well, and I’m amazed at how far I’ve come. Yesterday I sat at the skating rink, beside someone who spent time telling me how amazing it was that I had sat with my emotions and grief and worked through them. And here I am spending time in PHP and kicking myself because I haven’t done enough.
A year ago I listed off this huge, way too long list of things I had done in the year before that since she died. This year I’ve done far less, and I’m sitting in a hospital for most of each day learning how to be a functioning adult again.
But, I got myself this far.
Not alone though. I’ve had a huge huge support network since day one. Ever changing and rotating with people coming in and out of the picture as their own lives rotated around with different stuff.
And I also got myself this far because I reached out when I needed it and I kicked myself into gear when I needed it and I rested when I needed it.
And I survived for another year without her.
One of my songs at the beginning was “Fight Song” by Rachel Platten, and there’s a line in it. “It’s been two years, I miss my home,” and I remember at some point in the first year I heard that line and wondered how I would ever make it to two years and if I would ever make it that far.
I made it. So did Kidlet.
But Damn it, Parker . . . you were supposed to make it, too.
I miss you my firefly.