I write a lot when things aren’t going well, but it’s not as often that I write when things are just typical. That’s partly because there isn’t really a typical, but it’s also because my typical seems boring to write about. Especially right now, I’m not doing a whole lot of anything that I think would seem important to most people. However, I’m slowly realizing, again, how important these things are to me.
I’m reading and working on projects that require me to sit quietly for periods of time without my mind wandering. This is a huge accomplishment. It’s partly due to medication, and partly me learning to slow my brain down and not fight against thoughts as much. Some people can meditate, mine needs some form of activity attached, at least for now, and maybe forever. Right now that activity looks like diamond painting, but sometimes it’s chainmaille, both take place while listening to a Brené Brown audio book and working on my own thoughts.
I’m cooking more nights than not. Taking care of my house which is something I love doing. I love having the time and energy to be a homemaker. I love that I found the word to describe what it is again, I’m not a house wife anymore, and I’m not a stay at home mom, but I’m still a homemaker and while I’m so much more than that, it’s still one part of who I am and I enjoy this part of my life immensely. I had felt lost when people would ask “What do you do?” and I couldn’t answer.
I’m back to volunteering at United Way one day a week. It’s exhausting after 3 months away. The staff was happy to have me back and it was nice to feel like a valued member of the team there. It was nice that they remembered me. I feel like the fact that I went back after putting it on hold for so long is a major accomplishment for me, normally I would have just walked away completely.
And as usual, I’m going to doctors appointments. With public transportation, a 15 minute appointment downtown for psych medication takes half of the day twice a month. My therapist moved downtown as well but can only see me on a different day, so that’s another long day. Fortunately I have care providers that I work really well with, so the trip is worth it, but it’s still a very long and exhausting day. Mostly my physical health is staying calm for the time being, I still hurt and deal with flare ups, but mostly I can handle it without medical interventions, just the normal follow ups and check ins as far as all of those specialists are concerned.
I try to make it to the gym 3 days a week. I walk, Wonder Woman and I have ridden our bikes together when it’s not a sauna outside. I’m not as great about all of this as I once was but I’m getting there. I have some friends who have gone to the gym with me a day here or a day there.
And I’m running a local mental health meetup twice a month, and an online group that I try to interact with daily. I’m putting myself out there to try and get this off the ground, but it is something that needs to exist and it won’t unless someone starts it. I feel like I’m meeting what I always felt was my purpose in life, helping others. I always thought I was meant to do that in some paid capacity, but this is giving me a chance to do that in a different way.
I’m bummed that I’m not going back to school this semester but I also understand why I’m taking the semester off. I did finish making the requests to transfer my records over to the community college so that when I go back it can be around the corner.
Life is kind of boring in a please-let-it-stay-this-calm way right now. I’m not waiting for the other shoe to drop with my moods. I feel like my coping skills and my medications are working well together. I know that I can handle the next wobble when it comes and I’m just enjoying the calm.