This is a Really Real Mental Health Post.
A really great friend posted an Emily McDowell quote about the concept of New Year/New You and how it’s great and all, but the old you got you through everything up till now, so don’t forget about celebrating her.
I try not to do New Years Resolutions because they have like, a 95% failure rate (that’s a figure I just pulled out of my ass, nothing scientific to back it up, but it seems about right.) But, like a lot of other people, I tend to reflect on the previous year on New Years Eve.
This year was a lot about survival for me. But a different sort of survival. I’ve spent a lot of years trying to make sure we stayed alive with a roof over our head and food to eat and basic lowest level Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs stuff, but this was the first year I got really suicidal and didn’t run inpatient because I realized that the thoughts weren’t going to kill me, as scary as they are.
This year was about surviving my own brain and a lot of what old me has gotten me through in the past has absolutely gotten me through this year. And I’m not sure why my eyes just welled up with tears typing that sentence, but it’s true.
Growth is amazing, and I’m learning and growing so much. I wouldn’t still be alive if I hadn’t started living and growing and moving, or at the very least it wouldn’t be much of a life. But being able to sit in misery and not make it worse, is actually a skill. And it’s one I had to get good at for a lot of years.
Don’t dig myself in deeper while trying to survive the pit of shit I’m in now.
As much as I keep growing, the core of who I am is still the same. As good and as bad as that is. I’m a survivor, and sometimes those old skills keep me stuck, but sometimes they are just what I need to get me through the day.
While I’m throwing out the old to make room for the new, I need to keep in mind that a lot of that old stuff kept me alive this long. And yeah, it’s going to take new skills to truly thrive, but I can’t forget about celebrating the old me that stayed alive to get me to this point.