This is a Really Real Mental Health Post.
I feel really good these last few days.
There’s some lingering depression where I can’t quite figure out what I want to get into and nothing seems interesting.
All of my pain issues are flaring and all of my everythings hurt.
But I’m handling both of those things well, because otherwise I’m stable right now. I feel good. My emotions are in a pretty upbeat place.
Yesterday I cleaned and cooked and made a rotisserie chicken for the first time (chicken bondage anyone?) and then made chicken stock from the carcass in preparation for chicken soup today. I did school work and DBT work and just got a whole lot done.
And in between I mindlessly scrolled Facebook for way too much time because I honestly couldn’t figure out what to focus on, nothing could hold my interest.
The Kidlet will be here in less than a week and I’m super excited about that while also stressing about all of the things I stress about before someone comes to visit.
It’s very strange to stress about those things before my son gets here, but he no longer lives under this roof and this is no longer the house he left. I’ve been looking around and seeing how much has changed now that it’s Wonder Woman and my space and while the address is still the same, he will be walking into an entirely different house. Very little stayed the same.
I wonder how much he changed. I wonder how much he will think I did.
I worry about the dynamic we had when he left and how hard it will be to avoid that dynamic now that he’s visiting and staying here for a week. In theory it should be easy, he’s an adult. A man living on his own with his own agenda and his own rules. But old habits . . .
I would hate to see us fight on his first visit back home when we’ve mostly avoided it the entire time he’s been gone.
But overall, this has been a really good few days. I’m able to keep my anxiety at bay, taking it as it comes and not ruminating over it for too long. All I can do is my best while he’s here and worrying about it now won’t do a whole lot of good.
Same with worrying about my next crash. It’s sort of inevitable that I will have one, probably sooner rather than later, possibly within the next few weeks if history is any indicator. But worrying about it won’t stop it, and will only take today’s good mood away. It feels good to be able to sit the anxiety down for a bit. To recognize that it’s there, feel the feels but not let it overwhelm me, and then put it away.
This may be the calm before the storm but I’m focusing on the calm, instead of waiting for the storm. I can deal with the storm when it gets here.