This is a Really Real Mental Health Post.
Trigger Warning: Suicidal thoughts and loose plans.
Yesterday, plans as I saw them, got derailed due to
A letter that someone I count on should have written months ago.
And now I’m in a holding pattern.
I don’t do change well.
Even when the change is just in my expected time line.
I’ve already been in a bad place, barely hanging on, just keeping the gunshots quiet.
“Shhhhh, it’s going to be alright.”
Dishes piling up before I beat them back down again.
Cheering myself on each night that I cook.
I’m worthy of another day of fresh air.
I am productive.
I am worth something.
But I can’t make it to the gym, I can barely make it out of bed, I’m making it to essential appointments but rescheduling the rest.
Does that cavity really need to be filled this week?
Nah, it can wait until their next available.
School work has spiraled out of control, I don’t know if I can catch up in this final week I have left.
And then I crawl out of bed and go into an appointment to find out their missing
I mean, in the grand scheme of things it’s no big deal. It’s the beginning of the month and as long as she gets this letter in within the next few weeks, I can schedule my last appointment and everything will be on track. But this is a delay, a wrench in the process, something I just couldn’t handle in my already depressed state. I could see six months of work crumbling in front of me. I could see the whole process falling apart, again.
I came home.
I climbed into bed.
I started wondering what would happen if I just took every pill in the house. None of them would kill me on their own, we’ve locked all of the toxic quantities away, but if I just took everything we had around here, every fucking last pill, would the mixture be enough.
I haven’t cooked in days, the kitchen is a fucking disaster, the trash cans are overflowing, I’m not sure of the last time I showered.
And now even this is falling apart, again.
I took an Ativan at the urging of a very wonderful friend. Something to stop the thoughts from climbing all over each other and escalating.
I passed out into dreamless sleep.
I wake up to a Wonder-ful Woman holding Starbucks. I swear she’s an oasis or some shit.
I’m not sure if I’m overjoyed to be holding Starbucks or miserable because reality is back.
(But come on, Starbucks)
Reality, the dishes in the sink, the kitchen where I don’t know what to cook and it’s dinner time.
I’ll order pizza with money that I don’t really have to spend, but we’ve gotta eat.
I’ll spiral down the road of self hatred over how bad I am with money while we wait for it to arrive.
And eventually I’ll pass out for the night, still wondering if every pill in the house will do the job completely.
I wake up way too early. The house is silent except for the prancing of little dog feet.
There’s barely enough room on the kitchen counters to make her food.
I hear the chords to a song in the back of my head but can’t quite place it.
I feed the dog. I feed myself some oatmeal and a hard boiled egg that I made earlier in the week, before I became so useless.
Oh yeah, it wasn’t that long ago that I was doing things.
I hum along to the song in the back of my head.
I take the dog out, I make myself some coffee and absentmindedly drink it.
I start thinking about the shower that I desperately need and that maybe, I think, I might be able to take this morning.
I look up some crafty stuff on the computer. Make a mental note of some supplies I need, but don’t impulsively buy them.
“Everything’s gonna be alright”
The song in the back of my head starts to come into focus as I climb into the shower.
“Everything’s gonna be okay”
I think of some little stuff I might be able to make later with supplies I still have at home.
“It’s gonna be a good, good life”
And maybe I can even start to tackle that kitchen.
“That’s what my therapist say”
I’m still not out of the dark. I feel it pulling at me from all sides.
“Everything’s gonna be alright”
I still have a ton of schoolwork that I feel completely overwhelmed by, and I’m not sure where to start.
“Everything’s gonna be just fine”
I still don’t want to leave my house or go to the gym.
“It’s gonna be a good, good life.”
But, maybe I should keep holding on for a bit longer. Maybe
isn’t the end of the world.
And maybe I’m not quite useless.